Improve relationships using inversion
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Hi [FIRST NAME GOES HERE], (Was this newsletter forwarded to you? Sign up here.) What I'm writingImprove relationships using inversion — Relationship challenges are often easier to solve when viewed backward. Instead of focusing on what makes relationships better, focus on avoiding what makes them worse.
What I'm learningMastery can’t bought, inherited, or stolen. It can only be earned through hard work. Source: Morgan Housel [Tweet] Marcus Aurelius wrote to reflect on his thoughts, improve his character, and reinforce core principles in his daily life. His writings, compiled into what we now call Meditations, were not written to make money. They were investments in self-mastery. Source: Wikipedia [Article] The stories we tell ourselves are powerful in our lives. For example, Anorexics tell themselves a story: “I’m fat”. There’s a study called Too Fat to Fit through the Door by Utrecht University in the Netherlands. They asked people who had anorexia and people who did not a question while they were walking through a doorway. While one person asked the question, someone else distracted them from paying attention to the doorway. The anorexics shifted their bodies much more than the non-anorexics They believed they were too fat to fit through the doorway. Source: Neil Pasricha [Podcast] Building a business plan when starting a new venture is common sense. But most people don’t bother creating a life plan. A good life plan begins with a vision of the person you want to be and how you want to spend your time. From there, you can set meaningful goals on various time horizons: decades, years, months, weeks, and days. Like business planning, proper life planning gives you the confidence to say no to distractions. Source: Michael Girdley [Newsletter] What I'm thinking about“Newt Gingrich is one of the most successful political leaders of our time… Newt uses a brilliant illustration to explain the need to focus on the big things and let the little stuff slide: the analogy of the field mice and the antelope. A lion is fully capable of capturing, killing, and eating a field mouse. But it turns out that the energy required to do so exceeds the caloric content of the mouse itself. So a lion that spent its day hunting and eating field mice would slowly starve to death. A lion can’t live on field mice. A lion needs antelope. Antelopes are big animals. They take more speed and strength to capture and kill, and once killed, they provide a feast for the lion and her pride. A lion can live a long and happy life on a diet of antelope. The distinction is important. Are you spending all your time and exhausting all your energy catching field mice? In the short term it might give you a nice, rewarding feeling. But in the long run you’re going to die. So ask yourself at the end of the day, “Did I spend today chasing mice or hunting antelope?” —Timothy Ferris in Tools of Titans
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Hi [FIRST NAME GOES HERE], This week, I share an article on first team principles, along with some notes and quotes on the importance of paying attention to where you invest your attention. (Was this newsletter forwarded to you? Sign up here.) What I'm writing First team principles — Management is not just about managing direct reports or driving your own department’s outcomes—it’s about aligning with peers to move the entire business forward. This is the essence of first team principles....
Hi [FIRST NAME GOES HERE], This week, I share some notes on picking the right tools to increase cooperation in teams (and families). (Was this newsletter forwarded to you? Sign up here.) What I'm writing The Tools of Cooperation and Change — This article discusses four types of tools for driving cooperation in organizations and how to assess when it’s appropriate to wield each type. Hint: The most effective cooperation tool in a given situation depends on the level at which people agree on...
Hi [FIRST NAME GOES HERE], This is my first newsletter in 2025. I hope you are having a happy and healthy new year! (Was this newsletter forwarded to you? Sign up here.) What I'm writing How will you measure your life? — I revisited and updated my notes from Clayton Christensen's famous 2010 article. Money is not the most powerful motivator in our lives. The most powerful motivators are opportunities to learn, grow in responsibilities, contribute to others, and be recognized for achievements....